If you have a child and they are creeped out by a nephew or older brother touching them or looking at them a certain way, you need to have a serious talk with that person and keep them the hell away from your child. Don’t minimize it or tell your kid to hug them anyway, that kid is picking up danger signals they don’t even understand yet. But so many families will tell that kid they are being a brat.
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A quick note- this applies to female relatives as well. One of my aunts ignores my little brother’s requests not to hug or kiss him (he has aspergers and doesn’t like physical contact with people he is not very close with). I have repeatedly placed myself between the two of them and had to tell her to back off and stop trying to “desensitize” him. Whether or not there are “danger signals,” it is not okay for adults to invalidate a child or teen’s request for boundaries. We need to teach children now, when they are young, that they can say no to these things and that other people can too.
Also you need to let your kid know they can count on you to defend them, believe them, and stick up for them when it comes to things like that. Be it a family member, a teacher, a priest, whatever, they need to know you are on THEIR side, not the creepy adult’s side.
Spending hours on the internet reading and learning about natural hair.
Researching different supplements.
Trying to master different oils.
Admiring beautiful heads of natural hair while you’re in class.
Creating folders on your computer with titles like “Natural Hair Inspo” and “Hair Goals” filled with all your natural hair inspiration pictures.
Measuring your hair like every 3 days to see how much it grew.
Wondering maybe if it just isn’t in your genetics (it is, you can do this! Don’t doubt yourself).
Randomly getting pissed off sometimes because you want to protective style your hair, but you still want your hair style to be considered “cute” so you’re struggling to find that golden protective hairstyle that’s going to allow your hair to retain length, but still make you feel confident when you’re out and about.
Sitting in your room multiplying the length of 6 inches by however many years it’s going to take for you to reach your goal..
Wondering why your curls don’t clump like the girls on YouTube. (Don’t worry sweetheart, they clump like yours. And that’s beautiful too.)
Frustrated because some girl went natural AFTER you and now her hair is longer than yours. (Chill. She’s not better than you, don’t even let that thought enter your mind. She just found what methods work for her, all you need to do is find what works for you.)
Got ridiculed when you wore weave, now you get ridiculed for your natural texture. You’ll learn not to care either way, it all comes with time.
I’ve been there.. Trust me when I say consistency is key. Stay consistent and stay patient. You’ve got this.
People don’t give Rugrats enough credit for how progressive it was. I mean think about it.
Chuckie, for most of the series is raised by a single father
Angelica’s mother was a high ranking corporate executive
Phil and Lil’s mom was a feminist
She also breastfed them (which the show actually depicted)
Tommy is half-Jewish and the show actually explored this part of his heritage
Seriously, this show was fucking amazing!! They just don’t make ‘em like this anymore….
Also don’t forget that Chuckie had an interracial family after the second movie.
How are you guys forgetting Susie? I mean her mom was a doctor and her dad was a writer for a famous Children’s TV show. Not to mention Kimmie was anything BUT submissive.
Remember when they had episodes that hit hard to issues kids might be dealing with? Chuckie only had his Dad on Mothers Day, Tommy had to deal with being outshadowed by a new baby brother, Phil and Lil were constantly being mixed up and then they had a couple episodes where they each found that even as a twin they were their own people. Man Rugrats was the shit.
